Need do DBT homework to get ‘sprung’ from Rikers Island Mind

The module I just completed in DBT was interpersonal communication. Some of it was painful, but this idea of escaping the irrational ’emotion’ mind is the key to feeling good about yourself and being able to make friends and enjoy life just a little. Not be so ‘intense.’

I’m not asking for much. I just don’t want my mind to be some sort of Shawshank Redemption.

And right now, it is.

BTW, with DBT, at first I was skeptical. A fad, buzzword, trend, catchall.

Nope. DBT lives up to the Hype. People in my group are in their 2nd, 3rd, 4th year.

Wowzaa.

Late Paramount Studios Chief Bipolar and Dialectical as Hell (DBT)

 

Charles Bludhorn. Crazy as a fox. Bipolar..they say. They called him ‘The Mad Austrian.’ He knew alot, but he knew what he didn’t know, and so he delegated the role of “Head of Production” to a failed actor named Robert Evans.

He told Robert, “Make movies that people want to see. None of that Fancy Schmhancy stuff.”

The studio was on the brink of collapse in the late sixties. Evans lined up ‘Love Story’  ‘The Godfather’ and ‘Chinatown’ in short order and saved the studio.

For all his delegation, Bludhorn died the death of a control freak. A Heart Attack at 56, while on a jet bound from New York to Los Angeles.

Dialectic. Opposites. Smart and Stupid. Sane and Crazy. Level Headed one moment, screaming the next. Robert Evans married Ali McGraw and the rest was Hollywood History.

From your “Tale of Two Hollywoods” pal in Hollywood, Florida…It’s Allison Strong. Back Atcha.

 

Rock & Roll, Hollywood Example of Dialectical, David Geffen of Geffen records and SKG fame

These are shots of David Geffen in the 70’s. Another college dropout like me who did not start a tech startup. Ok then!

David Geffen was and still is so Dialectical. Both are true. He was in love with Cher…until he fell in love with a man. and he’s ok with that. So it everyone else. He’s rich but knows how to appeal to the masses. He’s selling off all his properties as if it’s the last day on earth. He goes up to that Summit in Sun Valley Idaho (where I got my start in radio)…on his jet but wears the most casual clothes amidst moguls like Murdoch and Sons.

I know alot about his career in music because I used to be married to a Geffen Records promo guy. His ‘Asylum’ label was sold to Warner..with acts like The Eagles, Linda Ronstadt, Joni Mitchell…he understood folk poetry and that trend of Southern Rock exemplified by Lynyrd Skynyrd and America. Then he starts Geffen Records, signs Aerosmith, who were addled up and thought of as ‘Over the Hill’ and ‘Over,’ but they weren’t.

 

So that he didn’t look mainstream, he founded a boutique ‘imprint’..This is just like the big publishing houses do….to look like they have indie cred or are somehow on the fringes.

The Imprint was called DGC, for David Geffen Company. The signed a young act from Seattle Indie label Subpop Records called Nirvana, got uberproducer Butch Vig (Smashing Pumpkins) to produce it and the rest, as they say, was history. He sold Geffen and DGC to Universal Entertainment.

Just like publishing….there are only a few major players and they hold all the cards…only under different names.

An example of ‘Dialectical’ (in DBT) 1st Hollywood SuperAgent Sue Mengers

This was the late Sue Menger’s favorite picture of herself, smoking up a storm at her desk. She smoked other stuff, too. 

With all the hype around DBT, alot of people wonder….what is dialectical? It’s hard to explain. It sorta means two opposite things can both be true, and to learn to walk the middle path while accepting the opposites or dichotomy.

A recent Vanity Fair Hollywood Edition there were quite a few examples of ‘Dialectical’ Types…but let’s start with Sue. It’s said she was the first person who could have all the talent packaged in a film and work a deal to give the actors a part of the back in…the box office receipts in percentage points.

Sue Mengers was all women. Like the boys in the boys club, she was from the East Coast, came up from the William Morris Mail Room but later went out on her own. She was tough like a Man.

She had to deal with male directors of the old school, however.  She knew just how to work them.

This was during the 70’s. When Otto Preminger, who directed “Gone with the Wind” objected to an actor on the basis that he ‘was a fairy,’ she looked the old man straight in the eye and said, “No he isn’t. I slept with him myself.”

Mengers had fabulous parties. Everyone who was anyone was there. She launched the career of Richard Gere. Candice Bergen. Gene Hackman and tons of other examples.  She saw something in talent others didn’t see and fought tooth and nail to get them work.

That’s what an agent is for. I’ve begun my agent search for my books. I have at least two I want to write. I gather names, find out all about them and then send out a stealth attack …hoping what I offer is what they’re looking for. But sometimes, agents don’t know what they’re looking for until they’ve been hit over the head with a two by four.

Anyone else looking for a literary agent?

Punk Rock ‘Three Chords and The Truth?’

I heard about an artist, Colleen Green, who says her work is ‘Ramonesque’…i.e., The Ramones. I find stuff like this in the New York Times on the stairmaster at the Y.

Last week, on Sirius’ ‘Guns and Roses Channel,’ I heard all kinds of good stuff that I want to purchase and record. Also heard really good stuff on Jonathan L’s “The Lopsided World of L” Mersey Radio, Liverpool, England.

Jonathan is a former employer of mine at Radio station KFMA and ‘The Q’ both Phoenix, Arizona. You gotta know when someone hires you twice, you have worth in their eyes. This has nothing to do with Bipolar Disorder or Tardive Dyskinesia….it’s what I do to get out of depressive phases, like the one I’m in right now.

I feel Like Morrissey….”Heaven Knows I’m Miserable Now”…I was looking for a job and then I found a job…

Yesterday I heard uptempo "November Spawned A Monster on Indie 103.1's "Breakfast with The Smiths." Listen at your own risk for depression! lol
Yesterday I heard uptempo “November Spawned A Monster on Indie 103.1’s “Breakfast with The Smiths.” Listen at your own risk for depression! lol

I promise I won’t write about tardive dyskinesia, even though our numbers doubled last year. Mention it and people assume you’re radioactive, I swear.

 

A lot of stuff I’ve tried to do this week has either been shot down or flat out rejected…..I’m seeing the quality fade from my work. A lot of it is ‘circling the wagons’ at the end of 2017 to see all my specialists and get all my checkups done so I don’t end up eating my deductible in early 2017 out of necessity.

 

I keep seeing all these Open Enrollment “Try our Medicare Disadvantage Plan” ads. They tell you what you get, but not what you don’t. The lists of providers and preferred medications are not available. In what way is that fair? We can’t even be educated consumers.

Just changing or correcting that alone would go a long way to helping make sure we get our needs met next year.